Bringing People Together
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Getting People Together

Thank you for the many suggested topics for gathering from the request in our last newsletter! There’s strong interest in men’s and women’s groups, gatherings for seasoned and novice musicians and quite a few other topics.

Because of those suggestions, over the next couple of weeks we’re planning three new gatherings: Makers, Tinkerers and Inventors; older LGBTQIA+ community members; and professionals working in Death, Dying and Grief. These and other Community Dinners are listed on our calendar. Please help spread the word.

There’s also interest in a grandmothers’ group, a young parent group and a newcomers’ group; all of these will start in January. What else would you like to see?
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Thursday October 1st the Film, Video and Sound Industry mixer is shaping up to be a great gathering. Know any film makers, videographers, producers, actors, sound engineers, etc.? Tell them about it.

If you are a writer you can't miss the Written Word Mixer - Oct 22nd. Connect with a world of other writers: authors, publishers, playwrights, journalists, you get the idea. Make connections that will impact your life!

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Petaluma Conversations offers small-group discussions focused on listening, not winning debates. These connections build trust, reduce isolation and strengthen community.

Join us every Tuesday in October, 5:30–7:30 p.m., in the Petaluma Public Library Community Room. Pull up a chair. Click here to sign up

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Thursday Morning Socials

Every Thursday at 8:30am, people can show up for the Eastside Social at Eggspresso or Westside Social at Aqus Cafe. There's no agenda. Have a coffee. Sit down. Talk to somebody new.

A note from Executive Director John Crowley

The Machine Stops

In 1909, E. M. Forster wrote a short story called The Machine Stops. Someone pointed it out to me during COVID, and since then it keeps coming back to me.

Forster imagined a future where people lived alone in little rooms, with everything delivered through something called the Machine. They talked through screens, shared ideas and had endless contacts, but rarely if ever actually met. Food, entertainment, education and work were all delivered - no reason to ever leave home. And this was 1909. No television, no internet, no Zoom. Yet it feels a little too much like now.

The story follows a mother who is quite happy living inside the system and a son who isn't. He wants the sky, the ground and other people. When the story was pointed out to me during COVID, it was hard not to see ourselves in it: small rooms, screens and a world in which physical presence had suddenly become unacceptable, nearly illegal. In fact, there was the underlying narrative that "other people could kill you". 

COVID ended, but some of those habits stayed.

I'm not anti-internet. It's amazing. It allows us to work, learn, communicate and stay in touch with people all over the world. But all that convenience has quietly removed some of the reasons we once had to be around other people. We can work from home, shop from home, watch movies from home, order dinner from home. We can go through a surprising amount of life without actually having to go anywhere.

And going places was never just about the task. It was where we bumped into people - at the store, the library, at work, at the park, at religious and civic institutions.

One thing that I’ve noticed is that friendship starts with repetition. You see somebody one week. You see them again the next week. Eventually you know their name. You sit down together. You learn a little about their life. Then one day, almost without noticing, you're not strangers anymore.

That matters at any age. A young parent working from home may spend the whole day connected to people through a screen and still have nobody nearby to call for coffee. Someone who's 70 may discover that work is gone, the kids live somewhere else, old friends have moved away, and many of the structures that once brought people together have disappeared.

Nobody necessarily chooses isolation. It just kind of happens, nearly without noticing.

What people need isn't another program. They just need somewhere to go. A bocce game. A dinner. A parents' night. A coffee table. Something simple, comfortable and regular. Human connection thrives with repeated interaction in places where people feel at ease.

That's one of the reasons we've started our Eastside and Westside Thursday Morning Socials. Every Thursday at 8:30am, people can show up at Eggspresso or Aqus Cafe. There's no big agenda. Have a coffee. Sit down. Talk to somebody. Come back the following Thursday. The point is simple: repeated encounters turn into relationships, and relationships are what community is made of.

E.M. Forster's warning wasn't really about gadgets. It was about what can happen when showing up is no longer necessary.

I don't think the answer is to stop the Machine. I certainly don't intend to give up the internet. But perhaps we need to be much more deliberate about stepping outside it.

Nearly 120 years after Forster wrote The Machine Stops, his warning seems less like science fiction than it once did. The Machine is here. The question is whether we allow it to replace the very human need of showing up for one another.

Maybe the answer is simply to step outside of it, together.

Aqus Community Supporters Section:

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Local author Teri Roche Drobnick’s memoir "Our Long Goodbye: A Daughter, a Father, a Best Friend and the Journey Through Alzheimer’s" will be published by She Writes Press on Nov. 3. With a narrative braided between past and present, Our Long Goodbye is a poignant love letter from a daughter to her father that explores anticipatory grief, enduring friendship, and the profound power of shared memory. 

KIRKUS Reviews states:
"...This memoir is about much more than Alzheimer’s…a thoughtful and universal meditation on the life and death of a loved one.”  Register for her book launch on Nov. 14 at 7:00 PM at Copperfield’s and preorder her book here: https://copperfieldsbooks.com/event/2026-11-14/teri-roche-drobnick .
For more information, visit her website: teridrobnick.com. 

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